Dating is a difficult area of life for many people, regardless of their sexuality or identity. However, dating while asexual creates an entirely different set of challenges that can sometimes make it feel almost impossible. I’m not saying there aren’t any asexual couples out there, but in my experience, it’s incredibly difficult to find someone who understands what asexuality is and what an ideal ace relationship looks like.
For those who don’t know what asexuality is, I’ll let The Trevor Project break it down: “Sexuality is an umbrella term, and exists on a spectrum. Asexual people – also known as ‘Ace’ or ‘Aces’ – may have little interest in having sex, even though most desire emotionally intimate relationships.” While this is the basic definition of asexuality, being asexual means something different to everyone, myself included.
Still, knowing that doesn’t make my failed attempts at dating any less painful
When it comes to dating, I’m not looking for a physically romantic relationship in any way. No sex, no touching, no kissing – nothing. Holding hands and cuddling, perhaps, but that’s all. However, others in the community do have sex and masturbate, while some (like myself) focus solely on an emotional connection.
You might be wondering, why would an ace person even want to date? Similarly to many other people, I want companionship and to find “my human.” Because of this, I use dating apps and set up my profile like everyone else. Still, it’s always in the back of my mind whether or not I should disclose my aceness up front.
I think’s the most difficult part of dating while asexual. I want to be viewed as a “normal, desirable” person, but I feel this need to be upfront about my ace identity Perth hookup sites free before initiating anything.
Unfortunately, nine out of 10 times, this doesn’t go over well. Read More